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Charis Coaching is a social enterprise with a charitable mission to break episodic and generational cycles of domestic abuse.

Our innovative Buy One Gift One (BOGO) business model enables you to build corporate social responsibility into your company’s supply chain.

For each service purchased by you to support the development of your staff and culture, an equivalent service is delivered pro bono to women affected by gender-based violence in the Greater London community. We evaluate our programmes and report results back to you.

Our Results


  • A number of studies show that participation in life coaching programmes is associated with significant positive outcomes, including: a greater orientation toward new experiences and change; decreased depression, anxiety, and stress; increased cognitive hardiness or resiliency; an increased perception of control; and an increase in hope, a cross-situational construct which is positively correlated with self-esteem and problem-solving capabilities.
  • We evaluate codependency as a master variable correlated with a number of the above measures. Our pilot coaching programme showed a decrease from a high range to a mid-range of codependency on the Spann-Fischer scale after 6 months. None of our clients returned to abusive situations, despite opportunity and previously expressed desire to do so, and 50% were engaged in education, employment, or training by the end of the programme.

Our History

I am a coach and a former manager of an emergency shelter and crisis line for abused women. During my time at the shelter, I was struck by the cyclical nature of abuse. The same women would often come through the doors of the shelter more than once, having been abused by the same partner or a new one. People affected by abuse are rightly told that they’re not responsible for the abuse they’ve been subjected to. The downside of this is that these individuals are left feeling powerless. I’ve been asked the same question time and again in a variety of ways, ‘Are all men abusive?’, ‘Is this just my destiny?’, ‘Do I have a sign on my forehead only violent men can see?’

As the shelter had been open since 1980, we also noted a generational cycle. Grandmothers, mothers, daughters and granddaughters had all come through the doors.

Charis aim to break these cycles of abuse by supporting women through personal leadership development to remove the ‘signs’ of codependency described above in order to lead full, empowered, and violence-free lives.

Nicole Berg, Founder


“I realise I can do it, and if I don’t do it, I’m sabotaging myself.”

“I have new ways to cope with issues, new ways to think about things, new perspectives. I have more confidence in myself, in the way I’m going and steps I’m taking.”

“I’m living proof for myself that I can do this. I feel like Superman.”

“I’ve gotten a sense of accomplishment, some constructive ways to deal with emotions, and a feeling of positivity as I work through issues.”

“I’ve learned to take compliments, and that it’s OK to be honest. I enjoy being heard.”

“My mind is more at ease and I’m able to find my ideas helpful too.”

He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.

Friedrich Nietzsche